In my mini Ezine this month, I wrote about the importance of making people comfortable when speaking with them. (If you missed it, read the August tip, “Feng Shui Your Conversation” on the “Talk with Leil” page) But there’s something else that counts—something that most people, understandably, prefer not to admit. We crave being respected, liked, popular. In short, we want prestige in our world.

I’ve written books and dozens of articles on this subject and the selfless caring ways to accomplish it. Let me now share a subliminal way to win people’s respect that some might call “sneaky.” (I suppose it is but the most important thing is that it doesn’t hurt anybody.)

It’s usually unspoken but, in almost every small gathering of people, there is a most highly respected or revered individual. To subliminally boost your status within the group, place your (soon-to-be-more-revered tush) in the chair directly to his or her right.

If it is a business meeting, this subconsciously plants in the attendees’ minds that you are the head honcho’s trusted advisor, or “right-hand person.” It’s more subtle in a social situation but it still holds. People gazing in the direction of the most popular person will view you more often—and subconsciously connect YOU to their positive sentiments.

So don’t just plop down anywhere, especially at a business meeting. Choose your seat strategically to the right of the biggie. To further increase people’s perception that you are vital to the VIP, occasionally lean toward him and whisper something in his ear. A hushed “Could you pass the water pitcher, please?” works quite well.